Only problem is - the thing doesn't fit him anymore. He doesn't want to let it go. He wants to wear only this sweater and is unsettled at how it could have gotten smaller. Mommy and daddy explaining him the concept of 'growth' or pointing to the other one only make him upset and overwhelmed.
You won't believe it, Shrutee, he even checked on it after coming back from school one day to make sure it hadn’t disappeared into the oblivion of give always and hand-me-downs. :O You can understand we haven’t been making it to school on time. This is the last thing we needed in our morning routine!
To think of it, he's a little 5 year old who is attached to his sweater and lacks an understanding about how we grow out of our clothes. But this episode made me think - Don’t we all do this, Shrutee?
We fill our mental and material closets full of things and thoughts that don’t fit us anymore. They just sit there and overwhelm us. They keep us from seeing the things and thoughts that fit us much better, if only we could reach them past the clutter we have gathered.
Don't we all do this?
Do we even know the thing and thought that doesn’t fit us though? If we did, we’d be smarter, right? The problem is that much of the time we are running on autopilot and aren’t even aware when we are filling our mental plates until we are so far along that we are feeling the overwhelm from it.
My friend made me laugh the other day saying how it’s like we are hamsters rolling along in circles. Jokes apart, unhelpful thought habits can be seriously overwhelming and draining of energy, isn’t it? It’s like a leakage in a tank that we are constantly trying hard to fill with food, sleep, good company, passion and purpose!
How about we cut to the chase - speed past overwhelm to our deepest wishes?
How would it be if we could create an environment in which we could recognize clearly and specifically, the thing that doesn’t fit us anymore? Without anybody telling us or forcing us.
How would it be if we felt safe enough to come out of our shell and try out the things and thoughts just a little beyond the patterned one? Maybe my son would enjoy the new sweater that fits him better? Maybe we could see more clearly the thoughts that are aligned with our deepest wishes?
How do we do this?
What if we could use our body to delve into the first two questions in a way that we begin to clear away the clutter and pain in our body? And what if I told you that when we did that, you will also begin to come unstuck in your emotional self? You will begin to move towards what you want with more energy and clarity.